Of 32 and the Monumental year!

Dear Journal,

It’s  my Birthday!
Although not a landmark birthday I decided I was going to have as much fun as I could sneak in between my very busy mid week schedule.


Growing up, I developed a mindset that January was a period where adults were short of cash as many other bills competed for the available funds, so I don’t have childhood memories of birthday parties other than my mom’s fresh pot of soup made “specially for me ” and shared by all on my birthday…lol

So this year as I turned 32, I for the first time appreciated that my birthday is in January, a fresh start; new year, new beginning, you know just new. I set out to look shiny like a true birthday girl and I achieved it.
See the picture, Kai , I looked shiny
I had everyone doting on me at work , I had made a decision to reflect pure joy and it was contagious I can tell you. I also had my home girl Aduragbemi bring me a cake and she had to come to see in real life this shiny Abisoye.

* Thank you girl *

One colleague gave me a nice neck piece and another did the makeover.

Some of  my reasons for this new life are as follows;

I have suffered a loss.

Until you lose something you never really know it’s significance, October 2014 was a roller coaster of emotions, I was mourning my loss and a life was birthed too. I miss my sister, she had written about me in her published graduate project that I was the constant shadow in her life that would blaze the trail of her untouched dreams. I don’t think she knew she would die in her prime but seems like she gave a mandate already.

When you suffer loss it brings clarity of some sort..well I think it might be associated to the amount of time I spent alone, I had some quite in this busy world.

I had birth a life

Oh I call him the game changer. It was for me,the most life changing decision ever. I always knew I wanted a baby,when his arrived,his dependancy on me for almost everything scares and empowers me at the same time. I need to help him create opportunities as the Lord would enable me and to be such an example that for him and his siblings that fulfilling purpose would be natural to them

I have an obligation

It’s a calling, it’s coming to realize that each one of us has an ability given, a gift bestowed, a design created at the beginning of how I was to function . A fine print however is included like terms and agreement on a software installed and I already. Clicked “agreed” without reading the fine print. Now I feel it’s time to read that fine print and fulfill every of this mind’s capabilities.

Today marks another evidence that you can create your own space and have it decorated the way you want! I have the gift of choice.

I give myself permission to have all that I truly desire.

I am awesome!


Yours in finding herself,






Author: Abisoye “Faari” Akinola

Abisoye is an IT Professional and a Corporate Trainer by day, Mom & Wife on weekends and LinkedIn enthusiasts every other time.
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