Shining Light on Fear



Dear Journal,

I just experienced real and paralyzing fear. And I beat the sh*t out of him!

So I knew I had to get my business name registered but off course I had the issue of what to name my gig or better still what my gig was self. On this road to self discovery and making money out of it, I have read a lot of different ways to get these things done and why you should even bother.

I called my friend, who I know is a lawyer and can help with such stuff. He gave me a bill. Nice, not too shabby, but then again I had some questions and we needed to talk. He called me but I was busy with my little man at the time so I said I would call later. Fast forward to 6 days later , I still had not returned his call…I remembered though ,just didn’t feel up to it because I knew the kind of questions he would ask and I was not ready to answer them.
Today, I called, I  did without allowing my head over think it!
Me: ring ring ring…
Mr Sogs; cuts line, appears busy.
Me: Oh fantastic, he would see my missed call now..said to my self in my over rationalizing head…

Text comes in

Mr Sogs: on the road would return your call in a bit.

Ring ring ring on my phone : Mr Sogs calls back..this guy means business oh.

Me; Hello, Mr Sogs, how you doing, sorry I am just returning your call.

Mr Sogs: its OK, like I mentioned in my mail , that’s the different between a business name and a limited liability company. So what is your business about anyways?

I used lots of grammar to explain what I intended to achieve, he was quiet on the other side, listens to me rant then before he speaks.

Mr Sogs; oh great idea…

* in a very serious tone, he asks a couple of questions…*

So do you have a business plan yet?

What is your strategy for sourcing customers?

what is your product life cycle?

What is your operational standards like?

Gen gen..actor ya zo!
Rolls eyes in my head!

This man just bursted my bubble as I expected that he would .I remember he is always very practical, no creative juices without practical ways to achieve it.

Chai, with all the energy I had built around me. I felt really floored and inadequate . My liver was chopped and diced like veggies on Bearfoot Contessa kitchen chop board!

But like I had started to train my mind lately never to be shy to solicit for help, I asked and  he gave some recommendations.

So, I panicked, in fact, I rushed googled some recommendations he made. People that he thought could help me. When I found them, I realized that I had been here before and I had done something about it in the present.

This fear paralyzed me from late afternoon till earlier this evening, me that I had become a happy go energy ball…bouncing and spreading optimism and positive energy, I went limp.

Can I do this?
Who told me I could ?
See you don’t even have what it takes to do this…
Khaki no be leather …have you seen the pedigree of those attempting to do this?
You won’t even be professional!

Hmm, serious fear and self doubts, my palms were sweating as i drove home.
So I took some steps I have found really helpful lately

1. I deliberately changed the atmosphere, I inserted a CD of a message my pastor had preached on HELP.

2. I asked myself deliberate and hard questions and I answered them….no games!

Do I have ALL it takes to start my GiG?
Personality and creativity YES
Process and product creation NO

Do I need help to start-up my GiG in a professional way?
 yes I do

Have I sourced for help or solicited it?
Yes in fact paid for HELP , from February , I am working with a business coach

3. I went to sleep!

I drove home, put my little man to sleep, changed into really comfortable sleepwear,plugged in some more messages and slept.

All that fear was too heavy biko!

I was already putting in some much learning time per day in this GiG. One of my “from – afar” mentors had mentioned that you become an expert in a subject matter if you are willing to spend 10,000 hours on it and gosh have I been studying on this my GiG. I eat sleep and wake on this matter, then fears comes all up in my face to tell me I wasn’t qualified! Shior

Get out my space man!

…I just birthed a new idea!

Good sleep rejuvenates one and brings new ideas…

So how do you beat fear in your own space?

Yours in finding herself,

Author: Abisoye “Faari” Akinola

Abisoye is an IT Professional and a Corporate Trainer by day, Mom & Wife on weekends and LinkedIn enthusiasts every other time.
She believes LinkedIn is the real deal to find and meet awesome professionals and thanks, Reid Hoffman for the Idea!
Your go-to girl when you need to brainstorm great ideas.
She helps bored mid-career professionals who need get to switch gear to the next level using personal branding and confidence as tools!
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